Seek the one who enhances you,
and vice versa,
not the one who completes you
One of the most common metaphors to describe a life partner for love that you hear is that the person is looking for someone who completes them. I’m going to presume that means they can fill a void in us without a partner love in our life, rather than something more like a skill, function in life or such. Anything but the love void would be ridiculous, to think I’d have to or want to rely on someone to make me complete, and that I’ll forever be incomplete on my own because I can’t theoretically be complete without someone else.
That said, a lot of people lead fulfilled lives without a partner love. Many who have partner love also lead unfulfilled lives, even if the partner were everything they could wish for in a partner. Love isn’t everything in life, as much as some may like to claim it to be so. If it were, there’d be a lot more suicides!
I believe you complete yourself. And if so, the main goal I’d want in a partner is for her to make me a better person, with me having the opportunity and ability to do the same in return. That way, we don’t complete each other like 1 plus 1 equals 2, since we’d give a piece of each to the other to make two wholes. No, I’m looking for someone with whom our equation is 1 plus 1 is greater than 2.
Infinity ideally. 🙂