My Relationship to Writing

https://digitalcitizen.ca/category/writing/A week and a half ago, I started a writing class via Zoom. As an informative question and icebreaker, the half a dozen students were asked to describe their relationship to writing. I didn’t give a full answer then because it would have taken more time than others who didn’t ultimately give long answer, and because I was there to learn, not tell about myself and my writing. However, I thought it’d be a good topic to write about here, if, for no other reason, to get it straight for myself.

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How Do You Define Romantic Love or Relationship?

https://digitalcitizen.ca/category/writing/Some words are superficially adequate to define, but are much hard in reality. Two of those words are love and relationship, as in the romantic kind and not familial, professional, friendship, etc. I’ve known this for a long time, and didn’t have any sort of good answer, even, but I didn’t really try, having had an intuitive sense of how challenging it would be to even get an adequate definition, never mind a good definition. I have some quotes about some aspects of what I think they are, like love is the ultimate lottery, or true love is made, not found, but they are not really, or full, descriptions of what they are. The two words are attached here because, in many ways, to me, a good definition for a relationship is just a manifestation of a good definition of romantic love, that if I had a good definition for one or the other, I could probably have a good one for both. Well, today I heard of one. But before you read on, maybe see if you could give an adequate or good definition of (romantic) love or relationship for yourself.

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My Fake Facebook Relationship

https://digitalcitizen.ca/category/writing/On June 6th, 2020, as we were just coming out of wave 1 of the COVID-19 pandemic with a decent amount of lockdown, I surprised my Facebook world by entering a relationship. The surprise was not only due to the timing, when nobody was still really supposed to be seeing others, but that the eternal bachelor from being undesired by women this racially conservative province had found someone! What I didn’t tell them, though, was with whom, and that it was fake, and that I did it for them.

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Take Dr Helen Fisher’s Why Him/Why Her Personality Test for Love

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Dr Helen Fisher

I have converted the scientific test from Dr Helen Fisher‘s absolutely fascinating book, Why Him? Why Her? Finding Real Love by Understanding Your Personality Type, into a text format you can use in any place where you can edit text, whether a word processor or Facebook Note. This very scientific test will give you a lot of insight into the nature of your personality, who you fall for and why, and you can decide whether that’s what you’re looking for because wanting and doing aren’t necessarily the same thing. While designed to be used for singles looking for love, I’m sure it would be just as interesting for couples to do it rather than just singles. Dr Fisher has tested outcomes against existing couples to verify the theory. I would bet the outcomes couples get would make for an interesting discussion. That’s discussion, not argument!

To get that insight, you’ll need to do Dr Fisher’s test first, then click here to get an interpretation of results. This test is also the core test used on the very successful match-making site, Chemistry.com, that has been the buzz of that scene for a few years now with over 7 million people tested.

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Los Angeles Lakers Win 15th NBA Title, Phil Jackson Record 10th, and Red Auerbach Was a Sore Loser!

Nuggets Lakers BasketballThe Los Angeles Lakers just won their 15th NBA title, winning 99-86 over the Orlando Magic in game 5 of the NBA finals. This is their 15th NBA title, Kobe’s first without Shaquille O’Neal, and Phil Jackson’s record 10th. Kobe Bryant was named Finals MVP.

Jackson’s 10th title passes the great Red Auerbach’s 9 to set a new NBA record for championships won by a coach. But let’s get one thing straight, though. Auerbach might have been great, but ultimately, he was a sore loser by the quote below before he died in 2006.

“[Phil]’s never tried building a team and teaching the fundamentals,” Auerbach said. “When he’s gone in there, they’ve been ready-made for him. It’s just a matter of putting his system in there. They don’t worry about developing players if they’re not good enough. They just go get someone else.” [Yahoo!]

It was two different styles in two different eras, but there’s no telling what Red Auerbach might have done in this era. Auerbach’s teams weren’t exactly depleted of stars, but given the egotist he was shown by that comment, what do you think would have happened had he had those egos like Kobe Bryant, Shaquille O’Neal, Michael Jordan, Dennis Rodman and others on his teams? He’d have had to have been the biggest ego on the team and shipped them out. He wouldn’t have known how valuable these players truly were, with their faults elsewhere than in the basketball skills. Maybe Jackson walked into those teams, and maybe he went and got what he wanted, but Auerbach would have shipped them all out had he been coaching those same personnel.

And this comment about not teaching the basics, that’s a load of BS from a bitter old guy. Why don’t you ask the stars what ultimately makes the difference in the game? You can have all the desires you want, if you don’t have the fundamentals, you won’t be winning anything worth writing about. And don’t tell me these guys had all their fundamentals down, or maintain them without being taught. Since when did any star have so much fundamentals they couldn’t use more? Maybe Jackson didn’t teach everything from scratch, but he could have because he still had to teach it. He may not have had to teach as large a set to every player as Red did, but he still had to teach them, and there’s no doubt he could because if he couldn’t, he wouldn’t be here. I would even say Phil, the Zen Master had the harder job cause he had to teach it to guys who thought they knew it all. Red never faced that nearly to the same extent. He wouldn’t have put up with it and shipped them out or benched them. It’s a different style that doesn’t work today.

And the Zen Master, he would never say any such thing about any rival, including Red. Phil just acknowledged on TV that Red was a great guy when asked about his relationship with Red being “competitive”. Phil said he’ll “smoke a cigar in memory of Red tonight”. To say anything so petty or negative of a worthy competitor like Red, as Red said of Phil, just would wouldn’t be zen… now or zen.

So Red, if you’re in Heaven, which I’m sure you are instead of some other place, I hope you’ll have changed your mind and heart by tonight cause Heaven ain’t got no place for people who are anything less than happy.

If not, may I respectfully say, get the Hell out of there!

Flesch-Kincaid Grade Reading Level: 6.6