Facebook Should Have UN-Likes in their Newsfeed

Leading up to the 2012 US election, lots of people Liked Mitt Romney or Barack Obama on Facebook. With Obama winning the election, though, a lot of people are quietly removing evidence they supported Mitt in shame by Un-Liking his Facebook page. What’s a lot? Try 847 per hour as of last Saturday (Mashable). See the current rate on DisappearingRomney.com.

I say “quietly” because it’s not like Facebook puts it through the Newsfeed, or on a Timeline, that you UN-Liked a page. It’s not a good example why Facebook should have UN-Likes in their newsfeed, but it’s certainly a curious one.

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A Geographic Snapshots of my Daily Visitors

As of Monday (Jul 9), WordPress.com, which hosts my website, showed a full display from where people accessed my site, and not just the top 10 countries. Thought I give you a look cause it’s quite eye opening, and flattering. From what I can tell, the visitor stats are pretty typical of a day on my site. At 122 countries from 15,269 page views, I really do have visitors from pretty much ALL over the world!

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Facebook’s Friendship Page Feature Gives Everyone New Spying Capabilities!

Facebook rolled out a creepy new feature called Friendship on Oct 29, 2010. Good intent, bad results. Lay another brick in the road to Hell that is paved with good intentions! Here is a review and some counter-measure suggestions. This feature is a stalker’s dream! But it’s the same for just the casual “troll” curious about creeping on people… like maybe jealous friends, ex’es, significant others, family, etc.

What is this Friendship Page feature?

This creates a page showing all the public wall posts, comments, photos (based on tags) and events that two friends have in common. This goes for any two profiles which have common things to share, not just friends you have in common. It’s all based on what people choose to share in their privacy settings, that they have in common.

In plain language, it’s like being able to ask Facebook to show me all the interactions between person X and Y which is not protected from me, with one click of a mouse, then getting the results in an organized online report, summarized where each result has a link to the full information instead of just thumbnail, first few sentences, etc.

Whoa!!! R U kidding me???

Remember the days when you had to work to be a creep? When you had to browse through all the wall posts, photos, events and such, filtering out all the stuff by people you’re not looking for, to find what you were looking for? That’s all said and gone now. You can just click on a link now and voilà! It’s all there for you, in more details than you could have ever hoped to find in the past, like events two friends RSVP’ed together! I bet the FBI, CIA, MI5, CSIS and other secret intelligence services could only wish they had such a convenient tool to track people! Well, take CSIS out of that list. I’m not sure they’re either secret or intelligent enough to qualify.

Can you imagine your significant other doing this to someone who interacted with you a bit “friendlier” than s/he would have liked? Can you imagine Parents doing this to their kids and one of their kids’ friends? Can you imagine that person you’re dating wanting to know more about another “friend”, or an “ex” via all your Facebook interactions with him/her since you could not tell all, even if you wanted to? You couldn’t hope to have a memory like these Friendship Pages!

Worse, the stalkers, Internet trolls or 5 types of Facebook trolls are just in heaven these days! That include those behind bars who have Internet access!

Even for normal people, this Facebook Friendship page can enhance the 10 Ways Facebook can ruin your relationship (Collegecrunch.org) by making the features that are the reasons all the more accessible and organized.

How do you access this Friendship Page feature?

The easiest way is to go to someone’s profile and look on their Wall for the See Friendship link next to the Comment and Like links on various Wall posts, and click on the link. I’m not sure why some Wall posts have the See Friendship link and some don’t, but it’s there for many posts. However, you can see Frienship Pages for people who are not your Facebook friend, which is the creepiest part of this feature to allow spying beyond just your friends, and vice-versa on you by people who are not your Facebook friend.

After you get to the Friendship Page, to the top right is a more convenient feature where you can type in two friends’ names, aided by Facebook’s drop down menu to guess which friend you’re talking about as you give it more letters in typing out the names. Facebook guesses with people you know, people you have common friends, who live in the area, etc. While this feature limits the people you can input to be just of your Facebook friends, finding the See Friendship link on people’s wall does not!

What can you see on these Friendship Pages?

More than what Facebook says you can! One feature more is the common friends those two friends have in common. Of course, everything that shows up, whether a wall post, comment, photo, event RSVP’ed together, etc. there is a link you can click on for more. The page you initially get is an Overview of what the page fully contains. You can then click on links to the upper left, below a photo (if the two have a photo together) or an icon of two heads, to filter out features like Wall posts, photos, comments, etc. Talk about helping creeps to be organized!!

What can you do to prevent being super-spied on with this Friendship Page feature?

Nothing that would prevent this feature from being enabled. All you can do is minimize its impact on you with these solutions.

  1. Adjust all Facebook Privacy settings to “Only Friends”. If you do this, at least only your Facebook friends will be able to creep on you.
  2. Purge your Facebook friends list. Ask yourself this… who would I want to be able to creep on me with the Friendship Page feature? Anyone you have a strong reaction against, throw them out or take Step 3. Purging your Facebook Friends list is good to do on a regular basis, anyway, to keep people who can view your profile in full to those who know and trust to some extent. The link I provided at the start of this bullet offers some assistance with questions you can ask yourself to determine who you might want to remove, and why it’s no big deal if you’re wrong to get them back. This was before this Friendship Page feature came out.
  3. Customize Facebook Privacy settings to “Only Friends” and Block certain people. If you’re not cool with removing certain people from your Facebook friends list, even though you’re not comfortable with them creeping on you with the Friendship Page, block them in your Privacy setting for whatever you don’t want them to see. That could be pictures, Wall posts or comments. I don’t believe the RSVP feature works, though. It’s hard to check, but that would be the one I would be concerned the most because that person could see future events you RSVP to in common with another friend, and not just past ones. Can you say stalking assistance? I would recommend you make a list of people you keep as Facebook friends who you would not be comfortable with creeping on you, and just add them to your “block” list for each Facebook feature like photos, Wall posts, etc. I’d just sooner take them off my Facebook friends list if I were you, if I’m going through that much trouble.

If this Facebook feature changes to limit access, or you know other ways to counter it, please let me and others know by leaving a comment.

In the mean time, Facebook safely and try not to creep, even if it may be very intriguing. If you don’t like people doing it to you, don’t do it to others.

p.s. I find it interesting Facebook rolled out this creepy feature just before Hallowe’en. Unfortunately, it won’t go away just because Hallowe’en has gone away. Who the hell at Facebook let their engineer Wayne Kao add this to the site anyway???

Other Facebook issue posts on my site:

The Prejudices and Privacy Perils of Facebook Quizzes

How to Get Rid of Your Facebook Past

25 Things For Facebook You Can’t Steal My ID With

25 Things You Gave on Facebook to Help Get Your ID Stolen

Una Guía de Netiqueta Práctica para Facebook

How You Like Me Now by the Heavy as My New Swagger Song

For the past handful of years, I’ve been exploring lots of new music and noting songs I’ve heard for the first time ever which I absolutely loved. At the end of the year, I share a CD’s worth of them (70 minutes max) with people.

This year will be the first year I will have had a blog all year where I could share these songs as I encounter them. Pending how many I come across, some songs may not make the final cut. However, I’m a little behind “schedule” for discovering new songs I love this year. So far, I can only count (Pham Quynh Anh) and (Jason Collett).

Today, though, my sister sent me a link to the Kia Sorrento commercial from the Super Bowl this year with one rockin’ song!

I’m a big NFL fan and I watched the Super Bowl, but they don’t show such commercials on the Canadian broadcasts.

It’s a great commercial, with the music contributing as much as anything else to why I loved it. Mind you, the sew on tattoo on the teddy bear was quite charming, too.

The music in the commercial was by a group called The Heavy, from England. Besides being one rockin’ song, though, I felt it also had a lot of swagger, which suits me just fine having just come back from New York City with a swagger in my gait.

Now there was a time
When you loved me so
I could have been wrong
But now you needed to know
See, I’ve been a bad, bad, bad, bad man
And I’m in deep, Yes I am
I found a brand new love for this man
And I can’t wait till you see
I can’t wait

So how you like me now
How you like me now
How you like me now
How you like me now

How you like me now
How you like me now
How you like me now
How you like me now

Remember the time
When I eat you up
You know that I wasn’t lyin’
that you can’t give up
So if I was to cheat
on you baby would you see right through me
If I sing a sad, sad, sad, sad song
would you give it to me

How you like me now
How you like me now
How you like me now
How you like me now

How you like me now
How you like me now
How you like me now
How you like me now

Does that make you love me baby
Does that make you want me baby
Does that make you love me baby
Does that make you want me baby

How you like me now
How you like me now
How you like me now
How you like me now

I just love the beat and chorus. I’m not feeling angry or bitter or anything like the tone towards someone in the lyrics. I don’t think of anybody when I listen to it. Just the beat and chorus. But that’s the beauty of music. You can like it for anything you want.

I like the song so much, in fact, I’m making it my official new swagger song.

And it’s working so well that just after half a day with it in my head, I feel like I need a hip replacement already! 🙂

Thanks for the intro, lil’sis! We do like some things in common after all. 🙂

You can listen to more of the Heavy’s music on The Heavy’s MySpace page.


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Flesch-Kincaid Grade Reading Level: 5.3

Blue Sky, a Feel Good Song by Jason Collett

I was out at the movies recently and ending up hearing a great song, Blue Sky by Canadian Indie rocker Jason Collett. The video below is from a fan, not official video.

I heard this song from a bit of a strange feature before the films started. It was insinuated to be a movie, like a trailer but not a trailer. The concept and cinematography was quite moving, so it was better than a commercial. The song suited the images well, at least for feel. I’m not going to sit and analyze the lyrics for suitability to a theme. However, at the end, it flashed some text about heart disease being the biggest killer in women today. That really just spoiled the whole thing for me because not only did it catch me by surprise, the rest of the content had no relevance to the message. I’m not going to analyze whether that meant it “worked” on me or not. I just thought it was poor “marketing” or “communications”. And to be honest, it flashed the song credits so fast I was intent to catch it the next time I heard it rather than pay attention to the heart disease message.

A little research showed that heart disease message was about Facebook campaign called Love Your Heart. I see the “red dress” is the symbol of the campaign and I “get it” a bit about the red dress in that movie/commercial now. But it was just bad communications, in my opinion, if I had to go research it and didn’t care for whatever it had said on-screen after the thing was over.

Anyhow, I just loved how the whole Blue Sky song felt. Nice and simple, with an ultra-feel good chorus that goes right with the beat and lilt of the song. That’s as far as I’m going to analyze it cause sometimes, it just to go with da flow, ya dig?

Bring on, blue sky, bring on, blue sky!

Maybe they should write a customized version with a chorus of wear a red dress instead of bring on blue sky.

I must have a listen to more of Jason’s music!

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Jason Collett, from his MySpace site

Blue Sky

You tried to make good
Hiding out in the neighborhood
Getting by and it’s understood
There’s no time like the time right before the flood

You get high to feel your love
It’s alright, so you need the crutch
Step aside, wonder what’s up
You close your eyes
You see you’ve missed so much

Bring on the blue sky
Bring on blue sky
Bring on the blue sky
Bring on blue sky

You can fly in your dreams
Floating by the black and white scenery
Take a drive where lovers leap
Only to arrive dead on your feet

Bring on the blue sky
Bring on blue sky
Bring on the blue sky
Bring on blue sky

Oh, this stiff heart of mine (stiff heart of mine)
If ever there was a time (there was a time)
Only you must leave these things behind

The paint is peeling off
The hood of this old truck
As you drive into the West
Where the eye of God is sinking fast

Bring on the blue sky
Bring on blue sky
Bring on the blue sky
Bring on blue sky

Bring on the blue sky
Bring on the blue sky
Bring on the blue sky
Bring on blue sky.

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Flesch-Kincaid Grade Reading Level: 7.0