Defend Stable Marriage, not Hetero Marriage

same-sex-marriageWhy are people so vehement to defend the institution of marriage against same-sex marriage when marriage fails approximately half the time?

What’s so sacred about something that fails half of the time?

What do you put up with in your life that fails half of the time or more besides baseball hitters who are deemed good at a 30% success rate?

At 50% divorce rates, marriage is bordering on failure as a whole. There needs a better policy on marriage if it’s going to be held up as being sacred, like a maximum of 3 divorces before it becomes taboo. This is because, frankly, I expect better of something sacred.

If you want to use National Rifle Association (NRA) “logic”, popular among conservatives, that marriages don’t divorce, people divorce, the way they say guns don’t kill people, people kill people, then who cares who marries? Work on the people!

Besides, why are people so worried about other people’s marriages when they can’t keep their own together half the time? Maybe if they kept their minds and energy on their own marriages instead of someone else’s marriage, they’d be together longer. That goes for affairs as well as same-sex marriage concepts, although this is not just some theoretical musing. US states allowing or considering legalizing same-sex marriage have drops in divorce rates, while those most strongly opposed have increases, not to mention among the highest rates in the US (TalkToAction.org).

And you know why? One word. Tolerance.

It’s the same reason that the states which aren’t tolerant to same-sex marriages aren’t tolerant to other issues in their marriage and divorce. A change in social attitude would seem to influence a change in attitude within one’s own marriage as well. That would not be surprising considering how humans are such social creatures heavily influenced by social norms as peer pressure demonstrates quite powerfully.

Seems to me that if you want to preserve the institution and sacredness of marriage, defending it against same-sex isn’t the way to go but rather allowing it.

Now, Vermont legalized same-sex marriage last April 7, and the first to legalize it by legislature (politicians voted, vetoing the governor, rather than handed down by law from the court system). If I were people in other states, I’d line up to make it legal rather than fight it, even if only ultimately to delay the inevitable because it is only inevitable.

Don’t agree with any of this? Come on. Try and convince me. Give me a better argument! I challenge you.

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Why is it Cool to be Brown Only For a While at a Time?

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This post deals with two topics. The first is regulating usage of tanning beds by minors due to some science-based suspicion of melanoma or skin cancer resulting from it, a real problem going on today. It sets up the second topic which is a philosophical question regarding racism against coloured people and the hypocrisy to look a little more like them to be elitist in a trendy sense.

Woman in Tanning Bed

Woman in Tanning Bed

According to Wikipedia, sun tanning started becoming a modern fad in the 1940s as women’s magazines encouraged sun bathing and the bikini was introduced in 1946. Since then, it has gathered steam and possibly peaked this year, at least in media and government attention. A total of 17 states, including “sunshine states” Florida and Hawaii, are currently considering laws controlling tanning bed usage by minors [Toronto Star, Mar 26 2009]. Furthermore,

Florida already requires parental approval before minors can use tanning salons. If the new law passes, it would be among the strictest in the nation. Only one state, Wisconsin, bans teens 16 and under from using tanning beds, though a handful of others – California, New York and New Jersey among them – ban the under-14 crowd. At least 29 states have some regulations governing tanning by minors.

Teens are flocking to these tanning beds, apparently. At least 25% of American teens 15-18 years old have used indoor tanning, and many of them might go anywhere from 1-3 times a week!

But, of course, there are stupid politicians, or should I say Republicans, who don’t know anything about regulations who oppose it using Republican “logic”. Florida Republican Senator Mike Bennett said “I gotta tell you, you cannot regulate everything in this world, I suppose we could say the same thing and outlaw tanning on the beach.”

Well, it’s not quite like that Mike. You see, on the beach, it’s not only natural sunlight, but Mother Nature has placed controls on how many suitable sunshiny days you get to sun tan. She regulates how many days in a row and our lifestyle would only permit us so much time during sunshine hours to tan. This is a man made problem, tanning salons, and it needs a man made solution. You don’t need to regulate beach tanning because Mother Nature has already done that for you. If you’re not going to do anything, at least say let evolution take care of itself and weed out the dumbsters who can’t even take advantage of sunshine in places like Florida and Hawaii but have to resort to tanning beds.

Oh, wait. Sorry. I forgot you Bible hugging, creationist dogma chugging Republicans don’t believe in evolution. But find a smarter reason than what you said so you don’t sound so stupid, eh?

But Mike, at least, wasn’t as stupid as Republican Texas State Representative Burt Solomons,  who said it made no sense to ban minors from tanning just like they’re prohibited from buying cigarettes because both are known carcinogens.

Sunshine as a carcinogen! There’s a good one for the anals of science if I’ve ever heard one! It’s a wonder Burt’s not a vampire… at least a literal one. It’s so sad that a wonderful ideal as democracy can be warped so much as to get idiots like these in political offices when evolution should be wiping them out!

So all that being that, I say ban the under-14 crowd and require Parental permission for the under-16 crowd. Make the under-14 get sunshine the natural way with Mother Nature’s regulations, and let the rest be subject to natural evolution that if they were stupid enough to over do their tanning, they can remove themselves from the gene pool for it.

Now, as for this tanning fad, I’ve never been able to understand it ever since I came to Canada as an 8 year old. As a child, things were simple and clear, or just sometimes come through that way, and my observations on the paradox of racism and tanning has never changed since. I saw racism towards coloured people, though was fortunate to experience very little of it. Yet, I kept seeing Caucasian people flaunt their tans that made them temporarily browner, genuinely by sunshine or artificially in a salon, as a status symbol! It confused me, and still befuddles me to this day. The only difference is that I now see that paradox as hypocrisy, regarding

Why is it cool to be brown only for a few weeks at a time?

Now, I live in Canada, where the hypocrisy is only generally seen from Caucasian demographics. In Haiti, Jamaica, the Dominican Republic and many other countries, though, the coloured people even buy into it so much as to try and be whiter to push the hypocrisy from the coloured demographics. There is skin bleaching going on with creams and other means, to the extent it’s called a phenomenon [Jamaica.com, 2002]. There is also black women trying to marry white men in successive generations to improve the white stock of their skin, as described by Malcolm Gladwell in his personal lineage story as part of his book, Outliers. They do these things despite the Caucasian people around them tanning in their glorious sunshine environment! Yes, so I ask again

Why is it cool to be brown only for a few weeks at a time?

Tell me if you can…

And tell me why white body builders feel like they need to all be brown as well.

Flesch-Kincaid Grade Reading Level: 10.2

NBA, WNBA, PBL Basketball Fans Facebook Friends Tagging Challenge

I created these tagging challenges for fans of North American professional basketball, or people who know lots of those fans. The tagging challenges can be done on Facebook, MySpace, LiveJournal or other platforms where you can tag people on pictures.

The idea is to see how diverse is the group of basketball fans you know, and how does that compare to your fellow basketball loving friends. It’s no fun if everybody supported the team you supported, you know!

Here’s how to get these graphics for your tagging fun:

  • Click on a picture below to get it at full size.
  • Right click on that picture and save to your computer.
  • Upload it to your profile.
  • Tag your friends!

Fancy yourself quite the social sports fan, or this isn’t your sport? Try the same Facebook tagging challenges for:

Please click here for a complete list of over 100 Facebook picture tagging memes on this site with which you can use for fun with your friends.

Enjoy!

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