Where Does One Wear One’s Heart when Sleeveless?

From the habits of Leonardo da Vinci, I try to come up with three things to be curious about each morning to cultivate my curiosity that is one of my Signature Strengths, of which using it helps keep me happy and alive in life. This morning, I came up with this question

When one is not wearing sleeves, where does the English language think one should wear one’s heart?

It references the English idiom about wearing your heart on your sleeve, meaning  showing your intimate emotions in an honest and open manner. It references a common element in garments, which is the sleeve, but is not always found in a garment worn as a top, to which I then ask the equivalent of what if that element wasn’t there? What then?

Anybody want to suggest something? Preferably with a case for your answer? 🙂

Using My Signature Strengths (Science of Well-being Course Week 1 Optional Rewirements)

The Science of Well-being course had an optional rewirement assignment of using one’s Signature Strengths each day for the week. From my identification and analysis of MY Signature Strengths, along with notes on how to boost these strengths, and a little time to think about how I’d go about it, here’s my report on what I did.

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Fundamentally Shifting from Covering for my Weaknesses to Exploiting my Strengths

Growing up as an ethnic minority person, it was easy for others to point to my weaknesses, or just a relevant one, to support some claim or thought they had that I was inferior. Sometimes it felt as if whatever they pointed out, to them, was either the only thing that mattered, or mattered so much it should be the only thing that mattered, or as if nobody else had a weakness, or that particular weakness. I also didn’t like the idea of having very visible, obvious and/or very weak weaknesses. I might have even bought into the mentality of those who isolated my weaknesses in thinking I were like a chain, where I’d only be as strong as my weakest link… though I thought they were, too! 😉

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Signature Strengths and Happiness at Work (including MY Situation)

In the Science of Well-being course on Coursera, Professor Laurie Santos referenced a small study in 2012 called When the Job is a Calling, by Harzer & Ruch, that suggested those happiest at their jobs (in the sense of considering it a calling) were those who used 4 (up to 7) of their Signature Strengths (Top 5 or 7 Character Strengths). There were only 111 participants in that survey, which is hardly enough to be convincing for most people, even if the statistical derivations show there is “statistically significant” difference (i.e. on the graph, the thin vertical lines on the dot relating to 4 on the horizontal axis does not overlap those of dots for 3 or smaller). The mind just doesn’t buy into the math at some point, and just 111 participants is way below that point for me. Why they only had 111 participants is not known but I’d never publish anything with just that few numbers if it were only a matter of taking a survey rather than having to do heart surgeries!

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MY Signature Strengths (Science of Well-being Week 1 Rewirements)

Signature Strengths are one’s top (i.e. strongest) Character Strengths from the free assessment on the VIA site. I will opt for Top 7 to have a more varied suite of Signature Strengths compared to some other popular small grouping like Top 4 or Top 3. This will give me more Signature Strengths to work on, and to have more options from which to draw any time I need to refer to my Signature Strengths, as will be required in future rewirements. Having a Top 7 list is also more practical than just Top 3 or Top 4, from what I had seen of other content on how to use Signature Strengths. Finally, My Top 7 Character Strengths are all very strong so they could be true Signature Strengths, rather than just some Character Strengths picked out to fill slots for Signature Strengths.

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