What are you currently trying to prove to someone or to yourself? If you could not identify anything consciously, think to see if you might be trying to prove something to someone or to yourself subconsciously, where you were so focused on the goal you might have forgotten the reason. If you could not identify anything still, is thinking about it sparking any ideas or motivation? I always have a list of things to prove to myself and/or others. My challenge is to remember them all rather than not have a thing to prove!
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Think We, Rather than Me, More Often
In the early 1990s, I had a pen pal from Mantua, Italy, named Beatrice Lomaglio. During our correspondence, she entered into a relationship. Not yet having been in a relationship, I asked her how it had changed her life. I expected an answer of many details since I had an idea of the complexities of romantic relationship. Instead, I was pleasantly surprised by her elegant answer of how she now had to think about we, rather than about me, more often since many decisions involved her and her partner now, not just her as was before. I was also surprised because English was not Bea’s first language. Yet, here was this incredibly simple, well put, and accurate response staring back at me. I still have it since I had archived all her letters.
Surround Yourself with Those who Inspire and Achieve, and You, Too, will Inspire and Achieve
Are you surrounded by people who inspire and achieve in any of your circles of people today, or have you been in the past? In those instances, did you inspire and achieve? If not, were you surrounded by those people for long?
Believe Before You Achieve
When you are trying to achieve something hard, do you need any more challenges to make it harder? Do you need to fight off doubt to achieve your goal if you didn’t have to? Would everything not be easier to achieve if you only fully believed you could do it, whether from the start or from somewhere along the way? Those are the reasons why you should believe, before you achieve.
Bring Solutions, Not Problems
When you identify problems, do you generally also offer options for solutions? Or do you tend to just identify the problems and see what others, or you and others, can do about them?
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