Six Life Philosophies from an Obituary Writer

The Boston Globe recently had a great short article about six life lessons given by Bryan Marquard, their obituary writer of over 800 obits in the past 3.5 years. His perspective was that he looked at life through the lens of death. The article ended by asking “what have you learned from life”?

I’ll summarize the article here and give a few answers for this post.

1. Be nice.
No matter what you accomplish, how you treat people has a lot to do with how you will be remembered.

2. Don’t be mean.
You can be #1 or #2 without being the other.

3. If you want to live long, retire young…
Leave some time for fun in your life.

4. Or don’t retire at all.
Pursue your passions.

5. You don’t have to be rich – or even have a home.
It’s you, what you are and what you do that matter most.

6. Act now.
Don’t put off what you’ve always wanted to do.

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I liked the article because it looks at life through a very different perspective than one that I have. It’s not that I think most people have the view of an obituary writer, but rather how much I stay away from the thought of death. I have never fully read an obituary, even of some people very dear to me. And I don’t have insurance except for where I can’t avoid it, like to drive or insurance with my job. Sure, I appreciate a health plan and such, but insurance is like a constant reminder, with payment, of unfortunate things. As someone who believes that if you think about something enough, it might just happen to you, I stay away from those negative things.

As for some of what I’ve learned from life? For starters, I’ve got 26 life philosophies through this link. But if you’re not interested, I’ll leave three different ones here:

1. Act now, enjoy the moment, but live like there is always a tomorrow.
You couldn’t hope to either truly live every day or moment like it’s the last of your life, or last long doing it.

2. It’s not how you start that matters, but rather how you finish.
Save the best for last, and something better for tomorrow.

3. Everything means more the more you had to earn it.
“Earn” is any kind of effort you have to put in.

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If you want lots of life lessons, please check out my blogging buddy’s Lifelessons4u blog. She’s got more life lessons than you could learn in a life time!

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In the spirit of how the Boston Globe article ends, please feel free to leave comments regarding

What have you learned in life?

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Flesch-Kincaid Grade Reading Level: 4.2 (pffft! topic is a little beyond grade 4!) 🙂

Video of President Barack Obama Picking UNC Tar Heels for March Madness (and me, too)

It’s March Madness time in the NCAA and also my favourite time of year! It’s go play or go home basketball time, when school pride is on the line and possibly the one shinging moment for some. Below are my picks, which, I am happy to say, agree with President Barack Obama’s choice for the University of North Carolina Tar Heels (UNC) to go all the way. The President, being a basketball fan, put it front and center on his Whitehouse.gov website (link is to article as it might no longer be front and center by the time you view it).

Of course, I’m a nobody so nobody cares about my picks, even if it’s my blog you’re reading it on, so immediately below are a video of how President Barack Obama came to decide his relatively safe picks with Andy Katz of ESPN, and his official 2009 March Madness brackets… or should I say Barack-ets. Add another term to the Obonics post. My brackets follow because it’s my blog! 😛

Who did you pick to win?
(or go to Final Four, Sweet Sixteen, upsets or whatever amount you care to share in the comments)

President Barack Obama's March Madness 2009 Brackets (click to enlarge)

President Barack Obama’s March Madness 2009 Brackets (click to enlarge)

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Here are my brackets:

Digital Citizen's East March Madness Brackets

Digital Citizen's Midwest March Madness Brackets

Digital Citizen's South March Madness Brackets

Digital Citizen's West March Madness Brackets

Digital Citizen's Final Four March Madness Brackets

Life is the Answer, so What are your Questions?

I’ve often heard people ask something along the lines of what is the answer to life? Sometimes, that question comes in the form of what is the meaning of life? However, I had an epiphany today that there was no answer to life because life is the answer.

Whatever you want to get out of life, you’ve got to live it to get it! You can’t expect it to come free and you should not expect to be entitled to it. If it did come free, it’d be less meaningful than if you had to earn it, anyway, so go out and get it. Go for it and work for it!

If you don’t know what you want out of life, which may put you in the majority rather than the minority unlike many might think, then just live life. Live a full life! Take some risks. Don’t be afraid to fail, because as an traditional Chinese proverbs says:

Failure is not about falling down, it’s about not getting back up.

But perhaps before that, take my official personal life motto (among many unofficial ones):

The best thing you can give someone, including yourself, is a chance.

Get yourself a chance first before worrying about failing. Worrying about failing will only contribute to the likelihood of a self-fulfilling prophecy as you’d be doing something not fully focused on it with part of your mind thinking about failing.

Finally, if you have aspirations of having to hurt or kill people for what you want out of life, or sacrificing yourself for it, remember, life is the answer. Not death.

So then, given life is the answer, what are your questions?

If you want that a little less metaphorical, what are the questions your life will answer?

Flesch-Kincaid Grade Reading Level: 7.2

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